(Editors Note: I left a lot of this blather from this person, to demonstrate how people fill the air with vain talk to justify their sin. Excuse me for that.)
Subject: Co-Habitation
Hello, I was wondering if you could give me an answer to this. I have asked several people who claim to ‘know’. It is about my personal living situation with the father of my kids…let me explain. I have two young children 6 and 5. They were born out of wedlock while I lived with their father. Their father and I are no longer dating, and started living apart. I have already begged forgiveness for living with a man outside of marriage, and for having children outside of marriage. I have been divorced since 95 and my husband is not their father. I have already begged forgiveness for my divorce as well. Now, the situation is that I have let their father move back into our home. We are not together, we do not share a room, we do not have any kind of relationship outside of raising our children together. The reason I did this, was because I wanted our children to grow up with both of their parents, but I did not want to be with their father. Neither one of us date anyone, we do not date each other and have NO physical contact with each other. And never will. We simply live in the same household with our children, almost like roommates. My getting back with my husband is not an option, and I do not plan on marrying or dating another man while my husband is still alive. My question is, does God see this as a sin? Since we are living in the same household, but do not live as man and wife and have no physical or even lustful relationship with each other, is this ok for us to do for our kids? I cannot find this in the bible anywhere and everyone I ask just say ‘oh yeah, it is fine’ but I want to be sure! I am trying to live the way I think God wants me to, and I think God would want my children’s father involved with THEM, but not involved with me…does that make sense? Any information you have would be appreciated. Thanks for your time
Friend:
As Lot said to the Sodomites: “I pray you, brethren, do not so wickedly.” Genesis 19:7. This is the generation of fornication early and often. They don’t marry, they live together. “Partners!” When you have an arrangement like you describe, you look like all the rest. You comfort all rebels in their sin, because you lend your appearance to that sin. Thus, you enable that sin. Your children don’t need two people giving the appearance of evil. They need two parents that are ashamed of their sin and will plainly tell them, DON’T DO WHAT WE DID. Here is a good verse for you to make your pole star at this hour. 1Th 5:22 Abstain from all appearance of evil. Simple stuff, no?
Thanks for writing. Your friends at WBC.
PS: If you are a sincere soul, you need to get Thomas Brooks’ “Precious Remedies Against Satan’s Devices,” and study it. He answers this cavil from the mind of Satan which you have presented.