WBC –
I saw on your website a scriptur about long hair. My hair is short and fuzzy because that’s the way God made me. Is that bad? I don’t like to put chemicals on it to make it long and straight because that unnatural. Is that better than or should I process it to be long? I always felt that that’s just the way God made me. My mother’s hair is less curly and longer, but mine is not. God also made me with a birth defect. I only have 1 kidney. God also made me with a chemical imbalance in my brain. Sometimes I get really sad and cry for no reason for days and sometimes I get really hyper and do irresponsible things like spend money on food I can’t afford or driving far distances to see a friend or even go to a different park. Should I take medication again or is it God’s will for me to be this way. One time I seriously considered killing myself, but I know that’s bad so I didnt do it.
I don’t like feeling this way, but should I just accept the natural me or take medication so I can continue to try and worship a God I never knew?
PS. Sorry it is so long. I have lots of sincere questions. My parents, family and friends weren’t Godly people during my adolesents, so I am taking this journey on my own and it is HARD!
John 10:11: “I am the good shepherd: the good shepherd giveth his life for the sheep.”
– Marissa
Dear Marissa:
Thank you for your email. Although reading it reminds me of the old joke about a guy drinking from a spittoon in the 1800s (but we won’t go there). We’ll answer one question at a time. First about your beautiful (I am sure) naturally curly hair.
Do not despair. We have those beautiful heads-of-hair around here too. The relevant Bible verses about this matter are in 1 Corinthians Chapter 11, as follows:
1 ¶ Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ. 2 Now I praise you, brethren, that ye remember me in all things, and keep the ordinances, as I delivered them to you. 3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. 4 Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonoureth his head. 5 But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven. 6 For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered. 7 For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man. 8 For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. 9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man. 10 For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels. 11 Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord. 12 For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God. 13 Judge in yourselves: is it comely that a woman pray unto God uncovered? 14 Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him? 15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering. 16 But if any man seem to be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of God.
Specifically see Gill’s commentary (which is representative of all legitimate Bible expositors) on verse 15(a) “But if a woman have long hair”:
“Ver. 15. But if a woman have long hair, &c.] And wears it, without cutting it, as men do” Your hair grows in like God ordained in. (On a related matter, humans lose about 100-150 hairs from their body a day. Gives you a healthy respect for Matthew 10:30, “But the very hairs of your head are all numbered,” doesn’t it? See our soon to be published blog about human hair, especially the dna science of it. It’s a beautiful thing.)
The sine qua non is that the motivation for not cutting is that it demonstrates obedience to the angels, who meet with the Church when the Church meets. See Hebrews Chapter 12: 22 But ye are come unto mount Sion, and unto the city of the living God, the heavenly Jerusalem, and to an innumerable company of angels, 23 To the general assembly and church of the firstborn, which are written in heaven, and to God the Judge of all, and to the spirits of just men made perfect, 24 And to Jesus the mediator of the new covenant, and to the blood of sprinkling, that speaketh better things than that of Abel.
Thanks for writing.
Kindest regards,
Your friends at WBC